Sunday, January 23, 2011
As promised in my last post, today I'm going to let you all in on a special secret. A few short days before Christmas, my son and his girlfriend came to me with news. They are expecting a baby. I was the only one they told, and while I was honored and grateful that they felt comfortable enough to come to me with this, I didn't know what to think. With preparations for Christmas going on all around us, I felt like we were in a small private world of our own. I had one special friend that I was able to talk too, and I will be forever grateful to her for her kind words and understanding. I was not angry with the kids, just shocked and bewildered. They are both so young, (18 & 20) and have so much life ahead of them. My friend helped me realize that all I could do was love and support them in whatever decision they made. It is incredibly difficult not to tell them what to do. I am still a mother after all. In the days and weeks following their revelation, as more people were involved, it became even more difficult. Everyone had their own opinions and idea's and tried to force them on the kids. I've found myself being mediator a dozen or so times, trying to convince people that we cannot decide for them. All we can do is guide them to information about ALL options available to them, and make sure they understand the outcome of each. No one is in a position to judge them either way. There have been many tears and reflections in the last weeks, but I am happy to say that a decision has been made. They are keeping their baby. I am so happy that this is what they decided to do. While others may not agree, I believe this is the best choice. While this may not be an opportune time for them to be parents, I have to believe this happened for a reason. God doesn't make mistakes.