Sunday, January 23, 2011

New Beginnings

As promised in my last post, today I'm going to let you all in on a special secret. A few short days before Christmas, my son and his girlfriend came to me with news. They are expecting a baby. I was the only one they told, and while I was honored and grateful that they felt comfortable enough to come to me with this, I didn't know what to think. With preparations for Christmas going on all around us, I felt like we were in a small private world of our own. I had one special friend that I was able to talk too, and I will be forever grateful to her for her kind words and understanding. I was not angry with the kids, just shocked and bewildered. They are both so young, (18 & 20) and have so much life ahead of them. My friend helped me realize that all I could do was love and support them in whatever decision they made. It is incredibly difficult not to tell them what to do. I am still a mother after all. In the days and weeks following their revelation, as more people were involved, it became even more difficult. Everyone had their own opinions and idea's and tried to force them on the kids. I've found myself being mediator a dozen or so times, trying to convince people that we cannot decide for them. All we can do is guide them to information about ALL options available to them, and make sure they understand the outcome of each.  No one is in a position to judge them either way. There have been many tears and reflections in the last weeks, but I am happy to say that a decision has been made. They are keeping their baby. I am so happy that this is what they decided to do.  While others may not agree, I believe this is the best choice. While this may not be an opportune time for them to be parents, I have to believe this happened for a reason. God doesn't make mistakes.


6 comments:

  1. Congrats!! I had my son really young -- 16 young -- and I think that it was the best thing that could have ever happened. God knew that I would turn my life around to be a mom and I did. And my son helped me meet my future husband. While it may be hard - there is always a reason. Even if it takes us a while to figure that reason out!! :) Congrats again!! So exciting!

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  2. Congratulations to all of you!

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  3. mmm, wow. Babies are always a blessing. How lovely to have the relationship where they could come and tell you. Who knows what life will bring? Congratulations. The new little one will be well loved.

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  4. Wow. You are handling unexpected news with grace and dignity. I'm sure the right decision has been made and I wish you every happiness. How exciting to be welcoming a new grandchild into your family!
    Congratulations!

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  5. My younger sister got pregnant with a baby boy at 19, and they kept the baby. It was hard going through college with a baby, but the love and support of both grandparents was key. She lived at home and had help with the baby while finishing her classes for her degree. After college, they got married and had 2 little girls to add to their family. The little boy is now 13 and the biggest joy ever. He is such an amazing young man. Good for them for choosing life and for you supporting them and loving them through it all!

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